Practicing self-compassion and love as a new skill everyday with Shecosister Kate O’Connor

Name: Kate O’Connor
Business: Emperor, Sweetheart Empire

What is at the heart of your business?
I photograph weddings, families, couples, and individuals. My mission is simply to help my subjects feel safe — to show, and be seen as, who they truly are.

Why did you join a women’s coworking and wellness community?
What happens in my biz is an expression of my internal life – heart, head, body, and soul. Combining work and wellness just makes sense!

What do you wish to give and/or receive from this community?
Compassion, love, sisterhood, accountability, advice, and work breaks where we dance it off.

What does thriving look like for you?
Practicing self-compassion and love as a new skill everyday. Being grounded enough that it feels safe to grow. Feeling that my cup runneth over, giving me the strength to share my gifts with the people around me. “And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.” ~ Marianne Williamson

Shecosystem’s core values are: openness, community, collaboration, accessibility, sustainability, feminism, and wellness. Which of these resonates most with you and why?
All of them resonate, but the one most unique to Shecosystem is feminism. To be surrounded by folks who appreciate the challenges of patriarchy, and who work intentionally to break it down and overcome it – that is exciting to me.

Tell us one way you integrate self-care into your working life:
I meditate for 15 minutes every day. I use the Headspace app and highly recommend it.

What’s your top piece of advice for other women entrepreneurs?
Don’t try to please everyone, or even “most people”. Do what you do best, and your clients will self-filter to be people who truly value you… I’m still learning how to take this advice myself.

Anything else we should know about you?
I manifested my boyfriend with a vision board. Like, to a T… That shit is cray.

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Holiday Gifts from our Shecosisters

The Holiday season is upon us!

We know how draining gift shopping can be, so we want to make it easy for you. Shecosystem happens to be home to several makers and creators whose beautiful products would make great gifts for your loved ones – or yourself.

Here are a few products created by our members – along with special holiday promotional offers – so you can spread holiday cheer while supporting local, female-founded businesses.




May You Know Joy and Seeds of Intention cards are a thoughtful holiday gift or stocking stuffer for friends, family, Secret Santas and teachers.  And – the effects of this gift will only enhance over time.  Both cards decks offer inspiration for reflection and intentional living.  Cards are available at:  Please contact Adrienne Enns at if you have any questions or require a special order.

 Shecosisters receive a 20% discount until December 15th.  Promo Code:  FRIENDS





Be With is a set of thirty-six cards divided into six categories: write, speak, ask, rest, move and affirm. Each category suggests simple prompts to help you Be With yourself in the moment: whether that means slowing down, paying mindful attention, or giving yourself tender loving care. The cards can be used daily or weekly, or just when you need them. Shuffle them and pull one at random, or work through them category by category. It’s up to you. Bring the benefits of self-care into your everyday life and learn how to give yourself the love and time you give everyone else. Right now you have the opportunity to support Barbara’s indiegogo campaign and get your Be With Cards in time for the holidays!





Everything that Christine designs + creates is meant to bring OM or calm to your home. She designs and hand prints original screenprint textiles and letterpress and lino block prints. She often uses words and inspirational sayings because she believes that inspiring words can elevate the energy in our home. Her line of inspirational sayings digitally printed is also designed to bring uplifting, positive energy to all rooms in your house. Check out her Etsy shop.  Christine will also be at the One of a Kind Christmas 2016 show. You can find her in booth T11 for the full 11 days of the show.


Christine has also created ‘The Soul Discovery Coloring Book which is an adult coloring book which is meant to help reader reach deep within themselves to connect with the divine. The book is an invitation to the reader not only to coluor the beautiful images found here,but also to access their own creative heART through journaling and creative exercise prompts.





GUT INSTINCTS brews artisanal batches of Kombucha and Kefir that are seeded with the intention to heal your gut. They believe that fermented foods are an answer to a host of modern day illnesses and would love to share these healing elixirs with everyone.

Getting the dance floor started

Shecosystem is officially 1 year old today! My celebration began last night at Nuit Blanche, and I want to tell you all about it.

Under a warm down blanket of clouds, I wandered out with my coven of Good Witches to feel the pulse of the city. First stop: the Wiggly Street party on Queen Street out front of Osgoode Hall where some friends were performing.

We approached and saw a crowd in the standard Toronto Nuit Blanche pose: standing still, head cocked to slightly to the side, wondering through their cellphone screens if this is Art. I figured there must be a live performance going on in front of the DJ booth. I peeked over the crowd and saw that, no, actually they were just watching an empty dance floor. Some minor head bobbing was detected, but zero bodies moving to the beat.

I edged my way through the crowd to the empty space in the front, waved to my friend Yossi on the decks, and let myself be moved. 

Sheco_benefit1Erika and Sabrina joined in. Corinne spotted us and joined in with a few of her friends…and then there were six women, giving ourselves permission to bounce, to be seen, to make the most of this moment. (Here’s the video the DJ captured of these first minutes)

Within 5 minutes, it was a dance party full of smiling strangers, warming up the misty October night. And it didn’t stop until sunrise.


Later on in the evening (or more accurately, morning) I recounted this moment to my friend Zohar, an inspiring entrepreneurial community builder whose new hub, Black Rock Coffee (our Koreatown neighbour!) has partnered with Shecosystem to provide member discounts on their goods. His reaction was something like,  “I’m not surprised. That’s exactly what you’re doing in your business.”  

And so as I danced to celebrate Shecosystem’s one year anniversary, Rosh ha Shanah, and this powerful new moon, I embodied that intention: to put this business into action in service of getting communities moving, connecting, and feeling good.

Entrepreneurship is a dance floor – we feel awkward at first, we don’t know the steps, can’t find the rhythm at times. But we harness the positive energy of the people around us, push our comfort zones, risk being noticed…and finally our soul finds its way into our feet and we are in flow.

 At Shecosystem’s new home at 703 Bloor Street West, the feeling of flow is beginning to set in. The anxiety of waiting – for the right space, the right contractor – had been replaced with a positive momentum and the space is under construction and poised to launch within the next month.

Shecoseedstem_4Like most things in nature, Shecosystem started with a few small seeds budding in a dark, tight place. You can read the full story of these seeds – and the very vulnerable ‘dark place‘ where they were planted – for context.


One year ago today, Shecosystem became a registered business. It was an intriguing concept, some official looking documents, but on the whole a formless entity. Still just a few scattered seeds. I’ve written before about how important it is to mark little milestones, so today I am celebrating this anniversary with not one but two big announcements:

The unveiling of a new website that makes me smile so hard


The official launch of our Founding Membership packages that get you up to 25% off your membership.


So check it out, and get in touch if you have questions or feedback as I continue to shape this space (online and on Bloor) to serve all of our needs. Or ask them live – we’ll have a series of these but the first one is next Tuesday October 11:

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Whatever new moves you’re celebrating this month in your own work-life wiggle, may you dance them with intention, with gratitude, and with joy.



Emily Rose